SOTD- 'Summer'-Moby & ......Memorial Day

There are times that simple mellow music will not be satisfied with Mozart or Vivaldi, or easy Jazz for that matter, and the sexy 'lounge' genre of music fits this space perfectly. Moby's album 'Play' of ten years ago is a great one, but this posted track from said album--"SUMMER" - is just lovely.
Play it, chill out, and enjoy a gorgeous Monday Memorial Day off. It is the start of summer- thank goodness! And remember, it is not just a day off. You can go here:

www.freedomisnotfree.org

and you can choose from a variety of ways in which you can help a veteran. As of today, there are over 5400 soldiers dead from this current war. I don't think many realize just what is happening. Just in our generations, we've known veterans from World War II (those old men always make me proud and break my heart marching in the parade) , Vietnam, Desert Storm, Iraq and Afghanistan. Do just a little something. Donating twenty bucks to this site even. You never know what down and out vet it helps.:)

Healthy Homemade Breakfast Bars

Ok- it is not the perfect factory crafted Cliff Bar, but with a bit of trial and error, I have come up with a pretty decent and super healthy breakfast protein bar.

* 1 cup Cut Organic Oats (the cut ones are easier to chew once in the bar form)
*1 cup of Raisins
*1/2 cup of Coconut
*3 tablespoons cinnamon (cinnamon is one of earth's healthiest antioxidant spices)
*1 1/2 cups Fresh Peanut Butter
*1 cup Organic Honey
*1/2 cup Barley Malt

Simply mix dry ingredients and separately heat honey, barley malt and peanut butter together on the stove until melted and creamy. Pour melted mix over dry ingredients and mix with spatula a bit until cool. Once it's not too hot, get into mix with your hands and press and mix really well. Take mixed ingredients and press firmly into a 9 x 13 ungreased pan. Cover with saran or aluminum foil overnight (no need to refrigerate) and cut into breakfast bar squares next day.
This will yield 24 bars. I like to wrap each in foil and press tightly as I wrap, as I've found this makes them pretty solid and easier to eat as a bar once opened.
Yum!! They are so good and super filled with health and protein energy.
ENJOY!

The Best Life Teachings Are The Simplest

Here's a key one that is sooo important, we will all be much happier practicing it daily. Take my advice.
Life is sure not to be easy everyday. It will rain, you will get wet. Your car will break down, strangers, co-workers will be randomly rude (and this lesson would nix that too), you will get the flu, your work day may get overhwhelming sometimes, your back may ache, you may want to cry.....but the single most important thing between a joyful successful person and a n unhappy one, is how you process it. And you cannot blame anyone. That is it. Look at it with new eyes and have a laugh at it. I had a 3 hour train mix up and two train lates because of a so called 'medical emergency' on one train, that screwed up a nice dinner I wanted to have. Now the same train this morning has been cancelled and I don't know when or how I will get to work, but I will now laugh at these things and take it as it comes. But boy it's hard in the moment--but guess what? Remember these moments pass and keeping a sense of humour about the things in life you can't control, makes all the difference. Let the people that didn't have that experience stay happy. Feed off of their joy and let it go!

Sheryar's Facebook Blurb Today is Another Doozy To Share.

Sheryar Masud "A client of mine was upset because the last 20 years she put on 40 lbs. To get there, every year she has put on 2 lbs. She can't UNDERSTAND it! She does the same exercise and eats the same way for the last 20 years!!! Here is what I told her and you can apply this to income, relationships and LIFE! What ever is not GROWING is DYING!!! Life doesn't give you what you DESERVE..(stay lazy and the same as the years go by and foolishly expect different results )LIFE gives you what you FIGHT and WORK HARD for!"

Top Gun Stars...24-(gulp)-Years Later

It happens....but did Kelly have to morph into my Great Aunt the librarian?

RIP- Ronnie James Dio

RIP- Ronnie James Dio

Where would my little rock-n-roll soul be without hard rock and metal? It always hits me harder-this death thing- when it's some sort of artist that has not only an indestructable quality, but also an affinity to my childhood. booo. :(

Trenny and Scott

Take a quick look at the 'older mate' couple's list below of people of notoriety.

Tony Randall and Heather Harlan. Tony, +50.
Wende and James Doohan. James, +37.
Faith and Lee Majors. Lee, +35.
Martha Raye and Mark Harris. Martha, +33.
Tony Bennett and Susan Crow. Tony, +33.
Ed McMahon and Pam Hurn. Ed, +32.
Elizabeth and Dennis Kucinich. Dennis, +31.
Donald Trump and Melania Knauss. Donald, +28.
Chuck Norris and Gena O'Kelley. Chuck, +28.
Norman Mailer and Norris Church. Norman, +26.
Paul McCartney and ex-wife Heather Mills. Paul, +26.
Clint and Dina Eastwood. Clint, +25.
Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones. Michael, +25.
Rod Stewart and ex-wife Rachel Hunter. Rod, +25.
Ivan Zelnicek Trump and Rossano Rubicondi. Ivana, +24.
Jeri and Fred Thompson. Fred, +24.
Pam Shriver and George Lazenby. George, +23.
Victoria Reggie and Ted Kennedy. Ted, +22.
Candy and Aaron Spelling. Aaron, +22.
Warren Beatty and Annette Bening. Warren, +21.
Francesa Annis and Ralph Fiennes. Francesa, +19.
Mary Tyler Moore and Dr. Robert Levine. Mary, +18.
Jerry Seinfeld and Jessica. Jerry, +18.
Tommy Lee Jones and Dawn Laurel. Tommy Lee, +18.
Cindy and John McCain. John, +17.
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. Demi, +15.
Geena Davis and Dr. Reza Jarrahy. Geena, +15.
(ROCK ON GIRLS!)
Evi and Randy Quaid. Randy, +13.
Charlie Sheen and Brooke Mueller. Charlie, +12.

Notice anything? Notice a huge double standard? Of course you do, it's as old as the hills. A rich man beds and marries hot young woman. But not just that. Average Joe's in their fifties marry and have children with women 20 plus years younger than them and stay together forever. These said men do not have to EVER defend themselves. They are not looked at as:

a)'Incapable of having a 'mature' relationship because said partner is not same age
b)Some irrational horn dog that just wants to lay young women
OR
c)Trying to hold onto his youth by being with someone younger.

There are a variety of other stereotypes that you have never heard any man defend. (Another good one is when a disagreement happens with us and you hear "Oh but he's so young, what did you expect?" Like he is still sucking a pacifier incapable of a healthy relationship-haha) Yet, wasn't it Demi Moore that went on Saturday Night Live during Ashton Kutchers's monologue dressed as some frumpy old grandma lady, so that they could make fun of all the grief she was getting for being a so called 'cougar' or a 'freak' for marrying someone 16 years younger? Poor girl. She is/was in love and the fact that she suffered while Michael Douglas screwed his brains away with a wife of 10 years who is 27 years younger, without one moment of defense, is truly sad to me. It's extremely racist and ridiculous.
And yes, this blog is about me. It's about me and my relationship with my boyfriend Scott, who is 16 years younger than me. I'm tired of the occasional look of 'seriously?' It is the first, the last and ONLY time I will ever talk about, or defend this age difference and our love to any of my friends, family or readers. (Luckily my family thinks age doesn't matter and supports me ,so that's all I would care about anyway- my family) Beyond what he and I feel is- like the spiritual nature of what they say about gossip- 'none of my business'.Why I am doing this blog is to have one lasting piece of sentiment from me about it, so if anyone has their judgments, curiosities, questions and doubts, you can refer here because I won't be discussing it again. This is also for my freind Michelle in Dallas who has been married for 13 years to who she calls her 'soulmate' who is 13 years younger- and ALL the women who have to keep quiet and deal with this stereotype.

I have had boyfriends. Yes with an 's'. I like being a girl and I like boys. Having taken a good hard look at myself over the past couple of years however, I can, with most certainty, say that I have only been truly in love twice. One with my first love at 18 and another (lucky me) with Scott. Oh yes, I have been an emotional dramatic girl over the years, to say the least (lol) and if you mix that with my past boy crazy nature, I have claimed to be in love with 'the one' numerous times. My sister can be my biggest witness (sorry Shannon-lol) But real love (not lust or neediness or obsession or an escape from loneliness or delusional thoughts of manufactured love) is something that I believe comes truly once or twice in your life. My first love was 2 years older than me.I did date 2 men that were significantly younger than me at different points ( one 12 years and one 8 years)Outside of that however, all my mates have been either same age or older. But you see, regardless of all that I like being who I am in all ways and that includes my age (41. My love and relationship with Scott has nothing to do with wanting to be younger NOR because I 'chase' (another word that is a gross stereotype) only 'young' men. I am also not a commitment phobe. I think committing yourself wholeheartedly to a relationship is one of the most beautiful gifts you can have in a a life. commitment is not any less sacrificial deep and real nor less hard work with a young OR old age. I would love Scott for who he is if he were 50. And the whole stereotype of it being less intellectual or emotionally challenging and meaningful because he's younger is PURE bullshit. Men I have dated that were much older have been alot less mature emotionally (and still are), so you can throw that theory out the window. And sex? It's not a sex thing either. It's sad that when the woman is older she is some sex freak in a 'peak' (hell I've been in a peak since age 12) that walks into a nightclub like an animal, rips open the door and grabs a 23 year old club kid to get her rocks off. Sex with anyone you love can be awesome and beautiful regardless of age. Scott's friends have been in the same long term relationships since their early 20's and a friend of his his, of the same age, is getting married in August, so trust me when I tell you that age has no significance in the emotional maturity and effective communication of a relationship. And listen, I have good genes, and many times feel that my particular relationship is simply a manifestation of 'like attracts like' and I am physically attracted to how I look and feel. Simple. Not everything is some Woody Allen deep physcological breakdown. I mean really. It's exhausting.
That's it. As I said, I will never speak of it, nor defend it again. I don't think it is something that even needs to be defended in the end, but I know there are naysayers and I wanted to make it clear where I stand on not only my life and my happiness, but the issue itself. How I truly think it is and that it should be a non issue. Love is love. Between a man and a monkey, boy and a boy, old and young, etc... Those of you in my life, I'd love it if you found joy out of my joy. But, if not, it wont change my happiness and anyway- I wouldn't want to share my life and joy with anyone who doesn't celebrate it with me.

Much love- me xoxo

SOTD- Easy Come Easy Go- Bobby Sherman

Holy Gaylord laughing my ass off! Were girls really atrracted to this??

Kindly pardon me........

............but your Napoleon complex is not my problem.

Definition Of A Fool From Yoga Class Reading Last Night

A fool never stays quiet. Yet, more than half of what a fool says is useless chatter and nonsense.It is much wiser to get quiet and listen. This is when you learn and this is the one who is much smarter. When you don't need to know everything and you can learn and hear.

William Shatner- Taxi (Harry Chapin Cover)

I've been wanting to share some of my favorite songwriters from the 70's- and I will- but when I went to find 'Taxi' by Harry Chapin and "Everybody's Talkin' at Me" by Harry Nilsson, this came up. I LOVE when William Shatner talks out a song-if you've never seen, please watch. If you have, you know you can't help yourself, it's just so good. :)

Come on, help a girl out

6 hours. 6 hours!! The fashion show started at 9, hundreds of girls passed by and admired the collections. And yet, it wasn't until 3 o'clock that some sweetheart pulled me aside and said "your mannequins boob is hangin' out." What??? Her tittie was just hangin' in the breeze and noone said anything. That's awesome! I laughed my ass off! If you can't get 'em with sexy clothes, get 'em with titties.

Dream Bathroom

This is my dream bathroom. Someday!!! 2 sinks, and pretty sunlight.
I've always kept some sort of inspirational journal for ideas and designs and sometimes just goals and thoughts and find more often than not, I stick to many of them and make many of them a reality. Try it. It helps to write things down. :)
First, I should deal with re- doing my resume and the 'someday house' that this will go in as a start. haha

George: I hate all the annoying extras you have to go through when you go to a dinner party. The talking, the bringing food.

Jerry: You know you're becoming a bit of an annoying extra yourself.

Elaine: But really, we are four people, we can't just show up with one bottle of wine

George: Forget more wine, how 'bout we just get them a couch.

haha----too gooood.

"Nothing changes.....if nothing changes"

-Famous proverb

Doesn't take a rocket scientist. Thankfully so.:)