I am proud to say - and Caroline, Rachel, Elly & Molly can back me up on this - I made the entire theatre laugh at least three times with my ecstatic reactions throughout the movie.
What can I say? I’m just a demonstrative human being. Can’t. Hold. All. The. Love. Inside.- Julia Allison Blog post Feb 8, 2009
"I'm proud to say?" Oh jesus,jesus, Julia. STOP!
*Since my whole rant and frustration with NonSociety, I have a had a track running through my mind. It is my grandmother Marge's voice ( who has, sadly, been gone for quite a long time now) but she was a really smart woman,extremely practical, and she always used to say those lesson type of things to me. One of which was "Trenny, don't judge, lest you be judged or unless you consider it a fault of your own and are willing to look at those things in yourself."" And she was right. I think about that all the time and it continues to help me in my life. I don't always succeed with this, but I do really, really try to see people for their gifts rather than their faults. My intentions are not out of a desire to judge, I feel they are legitimate. So, please, just hear me out here. I want to number it to make it simple.
1. I did not fully give up reading NonSociety- I check into it once or twice a week. It is a combination of a guilty pleasure- I can't stop. I do think pretty girls in fun clothes with clever 'New Yorky' type things to say is fun. I am not a completely uptight ass- this is also mixed with my hope that the site will get more interesting and surprise me.
2. I am not jealous of these girls. And bear with me, I am only saying the following to solidify the point I am trying to make. I am also considered a pretty, fashionable New York Girl (ok, ok, I don't have a trust fund) But, I am confident in how I look, what I have to say and who I am. I do not have 'bashing' intentions out of spite or jealousy -at all. I am genuinely turned off and frustrated at the blatant narcissism. It literally makes my jaw drop.
3. One of the most beautiful things to see, ESPECIALLY with the men and woman in my life or that I come across that are physically beautiful or financially successful is humility. And I know this is sometimes hard given that we live in a society where people exploit this and think they have carte blanche to be an asshole or insensitive because of these qualities. Even worse if they are insecure or in desperate need of attention OR if others that feel less secure let them get away with it because they put them on an imaginary pedestal. The people that feel 'higher' will so many times exploit this weakness in others. I see it all the time. Don't get me wrong, I too have used my feminine whiles and looks to get what I want sometimes. I don't think it is bad to use what yo' momma gave ya, but don't so blatantly exploit it. That's when it gets ugly. They just seem insecure, not overly confident as I think they want to be viewed. This is what makes these girls so unattractive to so many frustrated readers, their lack of humility and/or gratitude/grace. The constant banner of "look at me', how pretty I am and how smart I am. And if you don't see it simply through my actions or postings, I will write it out for you in black and white, or stand next to someone famous to show just how fabulous I really am! Look!" * P.S.- proximity to people famous in the arts or technology does not make YOU famous. I have spent a lot of time around very famous people and it still takes work on top of exploitation to get to their level. We get it, you don't have to shove it in your reader's face. This is the point, to me, of a really great blog, (or a great song/movie for that matter)-not to have to announce your greatness, let your natural blogging show it and your reader's come to find that on their own. Like falling in love. Don't point it out to us with daily what we 'should' be seeing. It's a major turn off.Also, a little confusing. And lest any of you reading this, or any of the NS girls read this, I must make it clear that I really believe that it is great to be yourself, be and feel beautiful and think you are awesome and be proud, so I don't want to be labeled as someone who is trying to shut that down. Just have some damn grace and intelligence about it.
4. Contradictions. If you claim to offer one thing through your business- adamantly, constantly claiming that and you continually show another- you need to do a business assessment. Girls, your readers are your 'bread and butter' so to speak and their comments really matter. This is what Non Society needs to do- and jesus- if the girls (especially Mary and Julia) would be more open, they would see that their reader's nastiness and frustration is ultimately a gift that would help them if they could be, again, humble, not defensive. To be noted here, they constantly delete comments from reader's that are opinionated or that say things they don't personally like. Cowardly. Just learn some humility. I, myself, continually learn this lesson in my life. It is harder than being defensive, but so much better in the long run. The amount of time they spend 'defending' how cool and right they are,and how wrong their reader's frustrations are (deducing it down to the readers being the MTV phrased "haters" or simply jealous) has gotten old, is relentless, wasted blogspace and boring.
5. And this is final, number 5- I've said this before, but now I really mean it. This is the last energy that I will put into ranting about NonSociety. I will still check into it to see what's going on, I am only a human girl after all. This post really was spurred by my morning viewing of Julia's page-I literally slapped my forehead. I just find it silly. I do have my own life to lead and I know it is not healthy to carry on about someone else. The bottom line is, is that I am genuinely frustrated with all the tools they have available to them (whether I mean money, education, looks, networking) and they are blatantly wasting them. I WANT them to do well, that's what is ironic. And.. when they do what they say the blog is really suppose to do, I will be one of their biggest fans.
Anyway- thank you for letting me rant one last time.
love you all. xo
